A few things have happened lately that are emotionally painful. I am handling them overall fine as far as not thinking about me being worthless or anything like that, though I have lost some sleep and my stomach is not quite right. I feel this "ominous weight" in my body- kind of weird. A heaviness. Sometimes valuable lessons have to set in through pain it seems, otherwise we don't take them seriously - or so I am beginning to think.
New lesson- if you are about to say something critical to someone that involves human relations (particularly the one you are involved in with them and also ideally), make sure you are cool, you know what you are saying, you have thought it through and you are not (too) resentfull/mad. Consider yourself doing that under those conditions a bit like driving under influence. It won't do you good.